How to Fly...

So, I am going to actually tell you how to fly all on your own, no machine required. I will use myself as an example. My goal is to help provide real-life examples of what has brought me to where I am today. As with any of my posts or thoughts, you always have your own free will to agree/disagree & to utilize the knowledge I have gained about the world in my short 28 years in it. I feel compelled to share my experiences to help you maybe avoid the same mistakes or maybe overcome other situations where the same principles may apply. I speak candidly & from my heart, not filtered with frosting, but honest & raw with LOVE.

So, to the subject at hand...how to fly. I call it flying because it is my description of how to live above the influence of the world that surrounds us day to day. It is on my mind because over the past year I have been closely evaluating my life to answer the question, "Why am I here & what brought me to this point?" To do so I had to break down my own emotion, the relationships I have or have had, & apply them to formulate a plan to align my direction with who I truly am & want to be day in & day out.

I had to start with the relationship I thought was, "the one." The fact is that I made some mistakes in judgment about that person. At the core of me, I like to fix things either with my hands or heart. The problem with this is that it led me into a relationship with a person who was fundamentally different from the person I am really looking for. The person was not happy, not mature from a relationship standpoint, & on a different value system than me. I am a happy person, know precisely what I am looking for in a relationship, & believe that marriage if for life not just for as long as it feels good because it is overcoming life's challenges together that brings us closer. So, first point here is that you must never compromise in the aforementioned areas. Life is too short & there is no other way to succeed except through being happy with yourself & leading a positive life.

Secondly, I had to evaluate my career aspirations while excluding all variables except my happiness. I was asked by a close friend one day, "don't you think you could earn as much if you stayed on the same path?" The answer would probably have been yes, but money can't buy happiness & can't cover up dissatisfaction. So, I decided to give up the comfort of my current position to push myself to become what I truly want to be...a physician. Why a physician? I want to be a physician because I LOVE to help heal others, like I was trying to do in the wrong aspect of my life. My career is where I can feed my desire to help HEAL others!

Third, & not necessarily in this order but more in tandem with the my other evaluations, I began to evaluate my emotional state & direction. I became very sad after my split because it not only affected my feeling of success but it also attacked my belief system. This resulted in one of my hardest & best realizations. One major thing that was reaffirmed is that at the core of things is that we can only control our own actions, beliefs, & emotions. Yeah okay, not so much of a big realization you think, but it is because it helped me understand that although my relationship was not successful I still was because of the way I conducted myself never straying from acting out of LOVE & integrity. It was the other person that was unsuccessful! On the subject of my belief system, I realized that I really never compromised my belief & that it was the other person.

In essence, the process I described above is my own death to the life I was living. I had to die my former self to really become who I am inside & realign my life with that person. So, this is how I learned to fly, in a sense, & live above the world around me while living out the life I want & feel I was destined to live. I hope that at some point in your life's challenges you are able to take comfort in my words & experiences, so that you continue to make that key decision every morning when you wake. The decision to be HAPPY & full of LOVE. It will not always be an easy decision, but the fact that is the the sun will set & rise the next day. Life is too short not to be HAPPY & LOVE. So, go ahead, give in, be happy & enjoy your flight!!! Peace, LOVE, & HAPPINESS to you all!!!

Bless You!
Thomas