Passion

There is a time at the beginning of most serious relationships when we feel an intense passion for one another. A passion that drives us to want to know every curve of our partners body, be around them consistently, & have them reflect the love we show them. This can be very intense & many times these days sexual. We find ourselves rushing to "be" with that person & when we are not we find ourselves thinking about it.

I understand that having a passion for your partner is a wonderful thing, but I also think that the sex part is rushed into due to our curiosity & desire to intimately know them. I think that there is a modern theme of considering sex as intimacy. While sex is intimate, exciting, & a wonderful experience, I also feel that sex is rushed into & real intimacy gets overlooked. In this day in age, divorce has become an institution like marriage. I think that one large contributing factor is this rush to be sexual.

I feel that this rush leads to many people getting into relationships for the wrong reason, namely sexual reasons. After this initial phase of their relationship fades, these people are left wondering why they are in the relationship & becoming unhappy while also growing apart from their partner. This is an interesting subject to me because in all of my relationships since high school I have found myself being the one wanting to wait to take things to a sexual level & I am a guy. Even though I have the same desires as I am sure many others do, I pride myself on having enough self-control to do the right thing & show my body respect.

So, how does this apply to someone who is married? Well, I think that even if our relationships are in different stages of development we can all relate to the fact that they do change. Relationships are not all rainbows & gumdrops. They demand many things including great communication, respect of ourselves & our partner, focus, commitment, understanding, & of course LOVE among many other things. One key is to make sure that when our relationships are developing & changing we ensure that we are growing together & not apart. Do one thing today for your partner, if you have one, that you know will make them happy for no reason & just smile because you made the person you love smile. Peace, Love, & Happiness to you all!!!

Bless You!
Thomas