Do Girls Like Nice Guys?

Today I attempted to think about thing from a different perspective. I have attempted to consider things from the perspective of a female. From a very young age, males & females begin to develop communication patterns. At our earliest age, neither sex is interested in the other. Females then begin to fancy boys, maybe due to their mothers teaching them to be nurturing, & express this through loving expressions. Guys can all remember getting valentines & candy, seeing girls giggle & talk about you while smiling at you constantly, & then the approach whether it be through a friend on the playground, a note in class, or a stolen kiss on the playground.

Guys are creatures of a different color & taught to be strong & not display emotion. So, when they begin to display emotions of affection they often come out as some sort of rough display just to get them close to the girl, maybe a push on the play ground or making fun of them. So, why would this get confusing to us later in life when we actually want to know what our partner or possible partner is thinking & it especially wouldn't hinder us from knowing what they need would it? Simple...of course, this is the exact reason! We are different & have to learn the communication patterns of the opposite sex. This is not easy & is not something that someone can just write a book for you to read & then...oh now I get it, right? Exactly!

Males, Females, Relationships, & Love are dynamic. They are not static & constantly growing. The choice you have is to either grow apart from your partner or actually do your part & work to keep growing together. How do we do this? Well, the major center thing has to be communication, then you must have compassion & openness. The key to all of these things is knowing yourself & watching out for your quirks that could stand in the way. Things like passive aggressiveness, trigger happy with words, being overly opinionated, etc...

That is all fine & dandy, but what about the guys that learn to be kind, compassionate, loving, & all around great men. Do females really like that? I am sure that most women will quickly answer, YES. I am sure that there are many women that do & I do not doubt that at all, but there are also far too many that exhibit a pattern of relationships that would contradict this even if they would like to deny it. So, is there one cause? This is one question I could not come to a conclusion about. There are some things I would site as possibilities like fear stemmed from the hurt of previous relationships because when feelings get intense it may subconsciously bring back emotions from times you acted on those feelings with the wrong person & they hurt you because they were a jerk. Other reasons could be letting outside relationships & circumstances affect the relationship that should be solely between you & your partner, or fear that this could actually be the right person for you, or maybe we get caught up in the world chasing things that will not ultimately make us as happy as the best relationship we could ever have could. I challenge all of these people to rise above all of the reasons keeping you from having the relationship you deserve, because there is a good person out there for you if you do!

There is no one answer for how to fix every reason that good people don't always end up together, but there are many things that we can do to ensure that we end up with the right person. Take time to learn about yourself & what qualities add to the positive affect you have on the world & others, then be compassionate to the fact that you will not always have all the answers or know exactly how to best communicate to your partner & this is a two way street, then be open & don't hold back from sharing how you feel...after you think it through...because if you do all this you will never have to worry that you did not say enough & can be confident that you will never say too much (if you ensure what you say is how you feel). What you say will bring the right people into your life & take the wrong from it. Love, Peace, Happiness, & Laughter to you all!!!

Thomas