There are many things & times in life that compel us to chose a particular course of action. People can also have an affect on the decisions we make. I am happy that I have recently met a woman that, while making me a little nervous, has really been intriguing me through her outstanding attitude, style, & ability to communicate. We recently decided to officially become boyfriend & girlfriend.
What we all want in a partner is as diverse as each one of us. If you know me very well, you know that I am very particular & specific about what I want in life & in a woman. I could make a very long list of things, but I will spare you from that, lol! I am lucky to have met this new woman & actually did so in a way I never would have thought. I met her through the internet website eHarmony that does some of the leg work for you to help match you on some of your core wants & emotional attributes. As I said, I would have never thought that I would ever try something like that to meet someone but I'm a very open to trying new things & optimistic about the possibilities that arise from my openness.
I am very happy to have met this new woman that is both compelling & fascinating to me! This is one example from my life of how stepping outside of the normal & trying something new can provide you with enriching experiences & relationships. I hope that if you have been considering stepping outside of your comfort zone & trying something new that my experiences will help you make that step, because I know that there are great things waiting for you as well. Hope you have a wonderful day! Peace, LOVE, & Happiness to you all!!!
Bless You!
Thomas
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Monday, September 7, 2009
Friday, September 4, 2009
Trust
Trust is a major part of life & having any sort of meaningful relationships. I recently told my story to someone I care about & they asked me if it has affected my ability to trust others. I did not even have to really think about this question for more than a split second. The reason is that, even though something very wrong happened, I want to be in control of my emotions & my life.
I know that if I took time beyond the time I took to heal from the experience I would ultimately be giving up my power over my own feelings. The fact is that any time we hold onto bitter feelings & allow them to bring us down we are giving away our power & ability to be happy & that is not fair to us. Bad things happen to good people & to bad people. That is just the way the world works. Harboring negative emotions about these things just gives those who wrong us power & they don't deserve anything from us more than to remember how we got into the situation that hurt us so we can avoid the same thing again.
I chose to not be shaped by the world around me, but to rise above the influence & be the change I want to see in the world. I will go to school & become a physician, start the children's charity I want to, & give back to as many children as I can in my life. I will change the world one person, one life at a time & that is what I hope for. Anything beyond this is a victory beyond my hope, but never touching my dreams so that my dreams stay big & my heart remains happy & open. How are you changing the world? Could you do more? Peace, LOVE, & Happiness to you all!!!
Bless You!
Thomas
I know that if I took time beyond the time I took to heal from the experience I would ultimately be giving up my power over my own feelings. The fact is that any time we hold onto bitter feelings & allow them to bring us down we are giving away our power & ability to be happy & that is not fair to us. Bad things happen to good people & to bad people. That is just the way the world works. Harboring negative emotions about these things just gives those who wrong us power & they don't deserve anything from us more than to remember how we got into the situation that hurt us so we can avoid the same thing again.
I chose to not be shaped by the world around me, but to rise above the influence & be the change I want to see in the world. I will go to school & become a physician, start the children's charity I want to, & give back to as many children as I can in my life. I will change the world one person, one life at a time & that is what I hope for. Anything beyond this is a victory beyond my hope, but never touching my dreams so that my dreams stay big & my heart remains happy & open. How are you changing the world? Could you do more? Peace, LOVE, & Happiness to you all!!!
Bless You!
Thomas
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Am I Easy Going or Going Easy???
An interesting question for sure! Am I easy going or going easy? What do I mean by that exactly? Well, I am pondering if I have a very refined ability to judge character in people that allows me to quickly align myself with those that excite & compliment me or if it is my attitude that attracts others no matter who they are. I would agree if someone told me I have an amiable personality. I have never had a problem quickly making friends in a room of strangers.
Well, good for you right? So, what? The thing is that this is not always a good thing & something I have to watch, because for every great person or few there are sometimes people that are not who they seem to be. In sociology/psychology, we learn about personality & communication types in people. The one that can sometimes sneak in is the chameleon. This personality & communication type always agrees & can seem very friendly & trustworthy, but many times they have a hidden agenda that they may be looking to work you into. So, we just have to be cautious about who we let into our hearts & lives.
We all make judgments at some level & that is okay, because we have to decide what is best for our own lives. Who we chose to let close can have a large affect on our perception of how happy we are. My amiable attitude & demeanor comes with a little caution because I want to make sure that I continue to surround myself with people that enrich my life & who's life I can enrich in return. This means that I have to ensure that I am easy going & not going too easily toward relationships that are not in line with who I am & want to continue to be. One of my favorite sayings is something I pray for you all, "May God give me the Courage to change what I need to, the Strength to endure that which I cannot, & the Wisdom to know the difference!" Peace, Love, & Happiness to you all!!!
Bless You!
Thomas
Well, good for you right? So, what? The thing is that this is not always a good thing & something I have to watch, because for every great person or few there are sometimes people that are not who they seem to be. In sociology/psychology, we learn about personality & communication types in people. The one that can sometimes sneak in is the chameleon. This personality & communication type always agrees & can seem very friendly & trustworthy, but many times they have a hidden agenda that they may be looking to work you into. So, we just have to be cautious about who we let into our hearts & lives.
We all make judgments at some level & that is okay, because we have to decide what is best for our own lives. Who we chose to let close can have a large affect on our perception of how happy we are. My amiable attitude & demeanor comes with a little caution because I want to make sure that I continue to surround myself with people that enrich my life & who's life I can enrich in return. This means that I have to ensure that I am easy going & not going too easily toward relationships that are not in line with who I am & want to continue to be. One of my favorite sayings is something I pray for you all, "May God give me the Courage to change what I need to, the Strength to endure that which I cannot, & the Wisdom to know the difference!" Peace, Love, & Happiness to you all!!!
Bless You!
Thomas
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
How to Fly...
So, I am going to actually tell you how to fly all on your own, no machine required. I will use myself as an example. My goal is to help provide real-life examples of what has brought me to where I am today. As with any of my posts or thoughts, you always have your own free will to agree/disagree & to utilize the knowledge I have gained about the world in my short 28 years in it. I feel compelled to share my experiences to help you maybe avoid the same mistakes or maybe overcome other situations where the same principles may apply. I speak candidly & from my heart, not filtered with frosting, but honest & raw with LOVE.
So, to the subject at hand...how to fly. I call it flying because it is my description of how to live above the influence of the world that surrounds us day to day. It is on my mind because over the past year I have been closely evaluating my life to answer the question, "Why am I here & what brought me to this point?" To do so I had to break down my own emotion, the relationships I have or have had, & apply them to formulate a plan to align my direction with who I truly am & want to be day in & day out.
I had to start with the relationship I thought was, "the one." The fact is that I made some mistakes in judgment about that person. At the core of me, I like to fix things either with my hands or heart. The problem with this is that it led me into a relationship with a person who was fundamentally different from the person I am really looking for. The person was not happy, not mature from a relationship standpoint, & on a different value system than me. I am a happy person, know precisely what I am looking for in a relationship, & believe that marriage if for life not just for as long as it feels good because it is overcoming life's challenges together that brings us closer. So, first point here is that you must never compromise in the aforementioned areas. Life is too short & there is no other way to succeed except through being happy with yourself & leading a positive life.
Secondly, I had to evaluate my career aspirations while excluding all variables except my happiness. I was asked by a close friend one day, "don't you think you could earn as much if you stayed on the same path?" The answer would probably have been yes, but money can't buy happiness & can't cover up dissatisfaction. So, I decided to give up the comfort of my current position to push myself to become what I truly want to be...a physician. Why a physician? I want to be a physician because I LOVE to help heal others, like I was trying to do in the wrong aspect of my life. My career is where I can feed my desire to help HEAL others!
Third, & not necessarily in this order but more in tandem with the my other evaluations, I began to evaluate my emotional state & direction. I became very sad after my split because it not only affected my feeling of success but it also attacked my belief system. This resulted in one of my hardest & best realizations. One major thing that was reaffirmed is that at the core of things is that we can only control our own actions, beliefs, & emotions. Yeah okay, not so much of a big realization you think, but it is because it helped me understand that although my relationship was not successful I still was because of the way I conducted myself never straying from acting out of LOVE & integrity. It was the other person that was unsuccessful! On the subject of my belief system, I realized that I really never compromised my belief & that it was the other person.
In essence, the process I described above is my own death to the life I was living. I had to die my former self to really become who I am inside & realign my life with that person. So, this is how I learned to fly, in a sense, & live above the world around me while living out the life I want & feel I was destined to live. I hope that at some point in your life's challenges you are able to take comfort in my words & experiences, so that you continue to make that key decision every morning when you wake. The decision to be HAPPY & full of LOVE. It will not always be an easy decision, but the fact that is the the sun will set & rise the next day. Life is too short not to be HAPPY & LOVE. So, go ahead, give in, be happy & enjoy your flight!!! Peace, LOVE, & HAPPINESS to you all!!!
Bless You!
Thomas
So, to the subject at hand...how to fly. I call it flying because it is my description of how to live above the influence of the world that surrounds us day to day. It is on my mind because over the past year I have been closely evaluating my life to answer the question, "Why am I here & what brought me to this point?" To do so I had to break down my own emotion, the relationships I have or have had, & apply them to formulate a plan to align my direction with who I truly am & want to be day in & day out.
I had to start with the relationship I thought was, "the one." The fact is that I made some mistakes in judgment about that person. At the core of me, I like to fix things either with my hands or heart. The problem with this is that it led me into a relationship with a person who was fundamentally different from the person I am really looking for. The person was not happy, not mature from a relationship standpoint, & on a different value system than me. I am a happy person, know precisely what I am looking for in a relationship, & believe that marriage if for life not just for as long as it feels good because it is overcoming life's challenges together that brings us closer. So, first point here is that you must never compromise in the aforementioned areas. Life is too short & there is no other way to succeed except through being happy with yourself & leading a positive life.
Secondly, I had to evaluate my career aspirations while excluding all variables except my happiness. I was asked by a close friend one day, "don't you think you could earn as much if you stayed on the same path?" The answer would probably have been yes, but money can't buy happiness & can't cover up dissatisfaction. So, I decided to give up the comfort of my current position to push myself to become what I truly want to be...a physician. Why a physician? I want to be a physician because I LOVE to help heal others, like I was trying to do in the wrong aspect of my life. My career is where I can feed my desire to help HEAL others!
Third, & not necessarily in this order but more in tandem with the my other evaluations, I began to evaluate my emotional state & direction. I became very sad after my split because it not only affected my feeling of success but it also attacked my belief system. This resulted in one of my hardest & best realizations. One major thing that was reaffirmed is that at the core of things is that we can only control our own actions, beliefs, & emotions. Yeah okay, not so much of a big realization you think, but it is because it helped me understand that although my relationship was not successful I still was because of the way I conducted myself never straying from acting out of LOVE & integrity. It was the other person that was unsuccessful! On the subject of my belief system, I realized that I really never compromised my belief & that it was the other person.
In essence, the process I described above is my own death to the life I was living. I had to die my former self to really become who I am inside & realign my life with that person. So, this is how I learned to fly, in a sense, & live above the world around me while living out the life I want & feel I was destined to live. I hope that at some point in your life's challenges you are able to take comfort in my words & experiences, so that you continue to make that key decision every morning when you wake. The decision to be HAPPY & full of LOVE. It will not always be an easy decision, but the fact that is the the sun will set & rise the next day. Life is too short not to be HAPPY & LOVE. So, go ahead, give in, be happy & enjoy your flight!!! Peace, LOVE, & HAPPINESS to you all!!!
Bless You!
Thomas
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Me Nervous?
Me Nervous? I think so... Why would I be nervous? Someone has actually managed to make me nervous! They have done so in a relatively short period of time too. They have done so without even knowing it either. How you ask, simply by being themselves.
As I open up, I know that no matter what they think of me that I am a great person with a lot to offer. The thing is that when we open up, it shows we care, we show our flaws & open the door to judgment. I could relate the feeling to the one we get when we are in competitive situations. Sort of like butterflies... I like it, because it affirms my ability to keep an open door & open heart.
I believe that I may have been born with one of the greatest birth defects, a heart that is overflowing with with care for others. I try to focus on letting those around me know how much I care about them & feel like I succeed when I see my feelings reflected. The person I have met is reflecting GREAT & I am LOVIN it! What will happen, who knows but what I know is that I am really enjoying the opportunity to get to know this new person & looking forward to getting to know them better! On all your journeys, may your mind & hearts remain full & light! Peace, Love, & Happiness to you always!!!
Bless You!
Thomas
As I open up, I know that no matter what they think of me that I am a great person with a lot to offer. The thing is that when we open up, it shows we care, we show our flaws & open the door to judgment. I could relate the feeling to the one we get when we are in competitive situations. Sort of like butterflies... I like it, because it affirms my ability to keep an open door & open heart.
I believe that I may have been born with one of the greatest birth defects, a heart that is overflowing with with care for others. I try to focus on letting those around me know how much I care about them & feel like I succeed when I see my feelings reflected. The person I have met is reflecting GREAT & I am LOVIN it! What will happen, who knows but what I know is that I am really enjoying the opportunity to get to know this new person & looking forward to getting to know them better! On all your journeys, may your mind & hearts remain full & light! Peace, Love, & Happiness to you always!!!
Bless You!
Thomas
A Wonderful Person
This post is inspired by the meeting of a wonderful person. I recently have had the opportunity to meet & begin to get to know a young woman that is both inspiring & refreshing. Oh, nice & big deal right but why is this noteworthy you ask? There are a couple of reasons that this young woman puts words on my page.
First & foremost, from what I have gotten to know about this woman is that she is the product that is advertised. A little quirky, adventurous, sweet, thoughtful, caring, & self-aware. I could go on with adjectives to describe, but think those give you a general idea. This woman also has a quiet side that you can feel through the calm presence she exudes. All around I have to say that I am impressed with this person & glad that I have had the opportunity to get to know her.
The second thing that great is her self-awareness. Self-awareness is defined as the awareness of one's own personality & individuality. This woman knows what she wants & is comfortable in her own skin, a novel idea, but there are altogether too many people that compromise & lose their way in a sense. This is a comforting trait, in todays society, to see in a person because you feel assured that what you see is what you get.
So, I guess I just wanted to take the time to write about this wonderful woman because I know how little these sort of things get talked about. There is altogether too much focus on darkness in the modern media & this is a note about someone who brings light to the world through their presence. I sincerely encourage you all to take time to not only enjoy those who bring light to your life, but that you also take time to let them know because we are not guaranteed any set amount of time here & the one thing that I believe makes people fear death is the "I wish I would have's," related to expressing LOVE." If you LOVE, you never lose! Peace, LOVE, & Happiness to you all!!!
Bless You!!!
Thomas
First & foremost, from what I have gotten to know about this woman is that she is the product that is advertised. A little quirky, adventurous, sweet, thoughtful, caring, & self-aware. I could go on with adjectives to describe, but think those give you a general idea. This woman also has a quiet side that you can feel through the calm presence she exudes. All around I have to say that I am impressed with this person & glad that I have had the opportunity to get to know her.
The second thing that great is her self-awareness. Self-awareness is defined as the awareness of one's own personality & individuality. This woman knows what she wants & is comfortable in her own skin, a novel idea, but there are altogether too many people that compromise & lose their way in a sense. This is a comforting trait, in todays society, to see in a person because you feel assured that what you see is what you get.
So, I guess I just wanted to take the time to write about this wonderful woman because I know how little these sort of things get talked about. There is altogether too much focus on darkness in the modern media & this is a note about someone who brings light to the world through their presence. I sincerely encourage you all to take time to not only enjoy those who bring light to your life, but that you also take time to let them know because we are not guaranteed any set amount of time here & the one thing that I believe makes people fear death is the "I wish I would have's," related to expressing LOVE." If you LOVE, you never lose! Peace, LOVE, & Happiness to you all!!!
Bless You!!!
Thomas